What makes a man fall in love?
A
man falls in love with you because he knows he can be himself around you. He
falls in love with you because he feels SAFE expressing his innermost, private
feelings with you.
He
feels this way because he knows that you can handle your feelings. He can sense
that. And because he senses that at the most unconscious level, he starts to
long for your company, for your touch, for your affection. He may not even know
why he feels this way.
Once
a man feels safe around you, he starts to long for your company, for your
touch, and for your affection. He may not even know why he feels this way. All
he knows is that there’s something special about you that he doesn’t feel with
any other woman in his life. He’s in love.
He
wants to take you in his arms and keep you forever.
This
is the “secret psychology” of men and love.
I
say it’s a secret because it’s little-understood by women (AND men). It’s rare
that either you or he will know exactly WHY he feels mesmerized by you and
wants to get close to you and pursue you for something serious and
long-lasting.
Man ladies
are wrong about why a man falls in love
We
think a man needs sex, or has to have a fabulously gorgeous woman with a great
body. We think a man falls for us because we’re sweet to him, and kind, and
giving. ESPECIALLY giving.
So
we do things for him. We cook lovely meals and offer deep, thoughtful advice on
whatever troubles him.
We
light candles whenever he comes over. We put on our sexiest clothes and buy
lacy lingerie.
“We
give our bodies, our souls, our minds to him. And STILL he tells us that he’s
not sure how he feels.” We become exclusive with him without even a passing
thought to what WE want, or whether or not he has met our needs yet for a
secure, loving and committed relationship.
And
STILL he tells us that he’s not sure how he feels. Or he becomes distant and
moody. Or he stops calling or asking us out as often as he used to. Or he does
something very hurtful, or cheats on us, or tells us that he doesn’t believe
you’re “meant” to be together.
This
happens because deep down, you didn't trigger love in his HEART. You didn’t
connect on the deepest, most intimate level… his feelings.
How to
connect with a man’s heart
First,
here’s what doesn't connect with a man’s heart: When you tell a man about what
you think about the relationship, or what you did that day, or what you think
of the latest news you've read or the gossip at work. He listens. He
participates in the conversation. But his feelings aren't triggered.
That’s
because you share everything but who you are. You put up walls with him without
even knowing you’re doing it. You decide not to tell him the sorrow you felt
that morning or how a friend made you happy by calling you and cheering you up.
Or,
you actually don’t even pay attention to your own emotions. You’re too busy
with your to-do lists and tasks.
But
if you were to allow yourself to FEEL what you’re feeling, and then speak from
those feelings, you would make him feel safe and connected to you.
It
seems like such a simple thing. But for so many of us, it’s such a counter-intuitive
thing. It’s difficult. We’re not used to being juicy, sexy, FEELING creatures.
So many of us are programmed to be doing, thinking, managing, worrying
creatures. Unfortunately, these qualities make a man feel nothing around you.
When
you become a feminine, juicy, sensual FEELING creature, you magnetize him
simply by being what you were always meant to be… an alluring woman who is soft
on the outside, but strong and resilient on the inside.
How
do you do that? It’s easy when you know exactly how to use your feelings and
emotions to communicate the irresistible feminine quality that lures a man in.
In my eBook, I teach you all about how to shift your vibe by changing your
words and body language and attract a man’s heart, not just his body and mind.
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