10 Mistakes Everyone Makes In Their First Long-Term Relationship

Below are some of the mistakes most people make during their first long-term relationship...

Shallow

It is important not to build a long-term relationship on shallow things. It could be something like appearance, sex or even money. Where sex is concerned; if the sex is good straight up but that continues on to be the basis of the relationship, then it won’t be a good one. However, if the sex is something that gets better as you get to know each other better, then you could be on to a winner.

Possessive

Not every couple has this issue but quite a lot do and it can not only be unfair but also severely damaging to a relationship. One partner being too possessive will make the other feel like they aren’t considered or even respected.

Love The Person

Some people make the mistake of loving the idea of being in love even if they don’t truly love the person; and so they stay with them just because it feels good to have someone. This is a common mistake for a lot of people, especially those in their first serious relationship.

Show Respect

One of the most horrible things you can do to someone is expect them to love and respect you without extending the same courtesy. Think about it; it really isn’t fair. You really have to respect someone’s decisions and not undermine them.

Extending Grace

You know how you aren’t perfect? (Hopefully that isn’t news to you) Well, your partner is human too and so is the same. They are probably just doing the best they can and so it is unfair to expect them to be perfect all the time. Cut them some slack.

Communication

It is so true and so often repeated that it has almost become a cliché we ignore; communication is the key to a successful relationship. The simple fact is that nothing could be truer. If you’ve got a problem then voice it and solve it.

The Big Issues

Quite often those in their first long-termer will baulk at the thought of tackling the big issues until it is too late. One example might be having kids. Of course, it isn’t something you discuss until you’re well in to a relationship but if the time comes to have the chat and one of you does whilst the other doesn’t, it might be time to seriously consider your future.

Forced

This is one of those things that can be difficult for those who find it hard to accept the truth. Quite often, people entering their first serious relationship will stay together because they think that’s just what happens. If you can’t be yourself and it doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t. So don’t try and force it.

Comparison

This quote from Theodore Roosevelt (Comparison is the thief of JOY...) is right on the money and very important when it comes to the success of a serious relationship. The beauty of a relationship is that it is unique and not the same as your friends’ relationships. Everyone’s lives are different and trying to be something that you aren’t is double trouble in a partnership.

Ditching Friends

Everyone remembers when their best friend had their first serious relationship because they probably found themselves being neglected all of a sudden. Of course, it is perfectly healthy for couples to require plenty of time alone but doing so at the expense of close friends is not healthy at all.